There is this lady i have been dating for about a year and 6 months now. We love each other to the moon and most importantly we respect each other opinions and decisions. She is a born again Christian who appreciates the things of God more than she appreciates me which of course I have no issues with.
When we agreed to start up a relationship after being friends for about 6 months, it was agreed that there will be no sex until the wedding night but at a point, I asked her “what if we are done with traditional marriage rites are we still not gonna have sex? To my creates surprise she said we won’t until church wedding is done. I did not actually take her serious.
Fast forward, on the 15th of July 2019, the traditional marriage was done in her father’s compound in the east and all I was asked to pay and give was paid and given without any remainder . after the traditional marriage, we went back to my house in Abuja. Note that we were not staying together before now. I am based in Abuja while she is in Owerri. When we got home that night I told her we can now make love as husband and wife hence the traditional rites have been done and most importantly the bride price paid. To my amazement my wife bluntly refused. She told me she will never compromise her stand on premarital sex
I have been very faithful to our agreement based on her claim that she is a virgin. But refusing me my right over her body after every thing including the bride price has been paid is something I can never subscribed to and to this end I have I have involved her parent and her pastor her decision however, still remain no sex till the wedding night. I am putting the wedding on hold for now until she willingly allow me make love to her and she seems not to be comfortable with my decision as well.
This is the dilemma I have found myself please I need your wise counsels on this. Thanks and remain bless.